Criticism

It’s a hazard of doing anything.

And often, it comes with add-ons:
“Why did you load the dishwasher that way, you big dummy?”
“I’m better than you.”
“You’re such a loser.”

We get defensive about who we are—even though we often created the judgment ourselves. That’s why small issues can become big fights.

Some athletes fall into the trap of trying to impress everyone and disappoint no one. But it can’t be done. Everyone has their own idea of what kind of player they want on their team.

I’ve learned this the hard way: chasing approval to avoid criticism ends up pleasing no one. I’ve been there—constantly chasing approval.

Here’s the truth:

• You can’t make someone give you approval.
  
  

• Approval is a choice—theirs, not yours.
  
  

• Everyone has judgments you can’t control.
  
  

What you can control? Your own stamp of approval.

So how do you handle criticism?

• Drop the add-ons.
  
  

• Make constructive adjustments.
  
  

• Ask: Is their perspective meant to decrease my value—or to help me improve?
  
  

• Ask: Am I willing to accept feedback?
  
  

• Ask: Am I showing the courage and strength it takes to change?
  
  

Criticism, at its best, is a compliment—it means you can get better.

But remember: don’t confuse accepting influence with getting walked over. And don’t make aggression your only way to set boundaries.

Let’s change the conversation.
Character requires the skills of mental fitness. Reach out and schedule a keynote or training, and let’s work together to change the conversations in your life.