Lately, I’ve been telling people about the benefits of dried grapes.
Why?
I’m raisin awareness.

Specifically—awareness between feelings and emotions.
Let’s talk about embarrassment.

Unprocessed, unexpressed embarrassment can lead to shame.
One of the biggest myths of mental toughness is that you should hide everything.
But the emotion of embarrassment actually serves a purpose—it makes us aware that other people are watching.

Most embarrassing moments are uncomfortable—but rarely dangerous.
And here’s the twist: we often expect judgment, but what we’re usually met with is compassion.

I once had a 100-year-old athlete tell me,
“My coach told us after we lost to our rival that we were an embarrassment to our entire town.”

That stuck with him for a lifetime.

Feeling embarrassed means exactly that—you feel embarrassed.
It’s a moment.
It does not mean you are an embarrassment.

Diffuse—don’t fuse. Here’s how:

1. Accept your emotions. See them as information, not instruction.
   
   

2. Remember it’s temporary. Nothing lasts forever.
   
   

3. Notice when you fuse with emotions and shame yourself.
   Say “I’m feeling embarrassed” instead of “I am embarrassed.”
   
   

4. Change the pattern. Do one thing differently.
   
   

Following these steps makes it easier to problem-solve and adjust.

Want to change the conversation to mental fitness?
Don’t gamble.
We can teach you how—with one of our books, a keynote, a training, or a one-on-one or group coaching session.