Would you rather be right, or be helpful—a problem solver?

Differences in perspective and values are part of life. Trying to avoid them is impossible. But when we become obsessed with being right, our beliefs start to define who we are. Admitting we might be wrong starts to feel like there’s something wrong with us.

But when we’re in our wise mind, we want to be helpful. We want to solve problems.

An attachment to being right—or needing to prove someone else wrong—can hurt long-term performance. It’s often a sign you’re trying to prove your worth. That leaves you self-focused, and less tuned in to the world around you. You give your power away and miss opportunities to make others better.

In that mindset, it becomes harder to let go of strong and challenging emotions that will show up in practices or games.

So when conflict arises—internally or with others—try asking yourself:

What can I do to be helpful?
What problem needs to be solved?
What adjustment will help us perform better?

Shifting your focus to those questions will help you let go of being right.

Let’s change the conversation.
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